The first thing that I actually had to ask myself when I first found out that I was going to become a parent was where do I actually start, Especially when they were first born. Becoming a parent and becoming a good one isn’t something you can just instantly become either. I am actually shocked at how difficult being a parent can be, and one of the first things I noticed when I found out is that everyone wants to be the first to tell you. And they are actually excited by telling you from the looks of it as well! But the main mistake you make when people say it is that you just pretend to actually process the information, but actually you don’t. Sometimes you might just think you know better, and judge who is actually telling you this. But the truth is that it is actually much harder than you will think at first. And it is honestly harder if you are working a ordinary job than if you are a business owner.
One of the things that I have learnt is that you can’t really find the perfect time to learn to actually be a good parent if you have and focus on your own business day to day, and just like if you are a new person you will find it difficult to really be the businessman that you want to be. There are so many restrictions that come as a surprise as a new parent, and for me what I noticed immediately is that I could kiss travelling goodbye instantly. Especially as a parent to twins, I’m not sure if I’m using two small humans as an excuse but the fact is I have more luck winning the lottery right now. Even things that you used to enjoy then become something that you have to go out of your way to do, and even the things that you used to enjoy can actually become a chore. But as a parent, even if it is to one child or five the fact is you learn quickly that these are sacrifices you have to make and I’m waiting for the moment that I realise it became worth it personally! But I have started to notice that I do need to ensure that I also have priorities outside of the family home to be focused on, since the business that I own is what actually allowed me to have kids to begin with.
As I have made pretty clear so far, I do own my own business so I am at the phase now of where I am finding it hard to balance my professional life with my family life, especially because I do have twins. This means that I cannot just learn to do either perfectly well right now, even though for the past few years my successes as a professional have been key. The benefit of owning my own business however is being able to choose the days that I work, allowing me to really focus on becoming a good parent in the meantime as family is what counts. And the fact is I try to not actually take that fact for granted, since I cannot imagine most get the opportunity to spend so much time with new-borns. This little fact has really allowed me to only focus on the positives of my life right now, and let me just enjoy the time that I have to spend with my family while getting to actually work on a business for myself. I’m pretty fortunate.
Now the fact is although I have really droned on already, I don’t want to speak too much about the trials and tribulations of being a business owner with twins. Quite honestly, 99% of the time it’s just boring parent stuff. But I own a carpet cleaning company which is the business I have actually mentioned so much. The fact is my life is a lot cooler than I thought it would be, so I hope you stay following this blog and enjoy what I post!